Dr Ranj Singh has opened up about the moment therapy forced him to confront something he had been trying not to see: he was gay, even though he was married to a woman and thought he had built the life he wanted. He said he was 30 when he realised his sexuality while living with his wife of seven years, and that the relationship then broke down.
He said the change was not sudden on the outside. He had the career he had always wanted, a home of his own and all the boxes he thought he needed to tick, but he still did not feel fully happy. Therapy, he said, brought those feelings to the surface. “I had the career I’d always wanted, I always wanted a home of my own. I’d ticked all my boxes. So the big question was, why am I still not 100 per cent happy? Why does it still feel like something’s not right? And that’s when therapy brought all of that stuff out,” he said.
Singh said that realisation upended the picture he had built for himself. “I was not the person I thought I should be or thought I was going to be,” he said, adding that the experience felt like “everything fracturing and then falling apart”. He also said, “This perfect life that you’ve imagined and hoped for and dreamt of and worked towards isn’t your perfect life.”
The breakdown of his marriage did not end there. Singh said he then had to deal with friends and family, after what had seemed like a settled life from the outside was no longer workable at home. He did not go into how his ex-wife responded, and he did not spell out the final terms of the divorce, leaving that part of the story unwritten.
He is now in a relationship with actor James Colebrook. Singh’s reflection comes as viewers have also noticed his absence from Morning Live for the past six months. He denied earlier this year that he had been sacked by bosses on the programme, and said he was unable to appear on the show. Singh has been the resident medic on Morning Live since 2020.
The wider arc of his public life shows how visible he has been while working through all this in private. In 2018, he appeared on Strictly Come Dancing and lobbied to dance with a man; the introduced same-sex couples on the show two years later. He performed with Janette Manrara and left in the seventh week. What Singh has now made clear is that the life he had worked toward was not the life he needed, and that is the part of the story he seems most intent on telling on his own terms.
