Caleb Shomo, the frontman of Beartooth since 2012, said on Instagram on May 23, 2024, that he is “a proudly gay man.” The 33-year-old musician said he was speaking out after “a lot of speculation” about his personal life, and said he wanted to set the record straight before it affected the people he loves any further.
Shomo said he had been “unpacking and reckoning” with his identity for quite some time, and said he had buried those feelings with alcohol before getting sober enough to face them. He urged others not to do the same, saying that holding things in only hurt the person carrying them and those around them.
The timing made the disclosure more than a personal statement. On the same day, Fleur Shomo posted her own message on Instagram saying the past few months had been “a very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate,” and that the couple’s nearly 14 years of marriage had come to an end. She said she would always want to love, protect and support Caleb, and described their years together as “wonderful and full of fun, adventure and love.”
Fleur Shomo also wrote, “Our story was a good one. And now it’s done.” Her comments confirmed the split after months of speculation around Caleb Shomo’s private life, while his post made clear that sobriety had given him the space to come to terms with his identity. Beartooth, the alternative metalcore band he has led since 2012, now faces a public moment shaped less by music than by the personal turning point of its singer.
What comes next is no longer the mystery. Shomo has named who he is, and Fleur Shomo has named what has ended. The unanswered question is not whether the relationship is over, but how both will move through the aftermath in public after nearly 14 years together.
